Settling

Allow me to share the burden on my heart...

I’ve restarted this three times already. I don’t know how to put what I’m feeling into words. I don’t know how to share with you the urgency on my heart… but I’m going to try. If this is meant for you then I pray that Abba will indeed open your heart to hear and understand.


God wants intimacy. He aches to be a part of your life. To be the one to wrap you in His arms when you’re lonely, hurting or you just… need someone to be there.  God gets so often pushed aside. You may turn to close friends, family, a spouse, or to that boy/girl who’s gone to be more than just a friend. That’s the biggest thing. Singling out a guy or girl and turning to them when something’s going on.

I’ve done it so many times. From big things (freaking out because my sister wasn’t answering her phone and I thought something happened to her) to little things (a headache). Each time, I could’ve gone to God for the same reassurance and comforting arms to hold me… the only difference? He can meet me on a way deeper level because He knows me! He knows me better than even a husband would after 67 years of marriage! Yeah, God’s that good.


However, if you and I don’t put into that relationship than we’re not going to know God; we won’t know our Bridegroom Jesus and we definitely won’t experience Holy Spirit the same way. You see God has given us free will; He’s ready to pour into us all the time… but He’s not going to force it on us. We have to choose to be obedient in following Him, in seeking and cultivating that relationship; we have to choose to be open to His love.

We don’t though… well, maybe, for a little while anyway. Then the boy comes along who we vow is our husband; or the girl who just needs us and how good it is to be needed. Our hearts get tangled in a relationship that may last for a little or long while and then we’re left again. Alone, unfulfilled, and with a spot in our heart that feels as though it may never heal.

So much time and emotions are invested into people who were never meant for us in the first place. I cannot stress to you enough how important it is for us to be relying on Jesus and pursuing Him right now. To be okay with the idea of never marrying; knowing that if there is indeed a man/woman that God has prepared for us then they will come according to God’s perfect timing. You’ll be so much more not on edge with this if that’s the last thing on your mind anyway.


You’re too young to be settling for less than God’s absolute best. You are way too young and full of life to so lustfully go after something for adults. (That’d be marriage.) Marriage is for adults and that means so are relationships, because a relationship ought to lead to marriage. Not ready for marriage (and everything that comes with that package!) then are you really ready for a relationship?

Such a journey… an exciting, passionate, pure and awesome journey into God’s love is waiting. It tops everything else. Don’t settle… you’ve got a lot of time ahead of you; there’s no need to stress out about tomorrow when today has just dawned and has so much in store.